Why do we not believe in the things seen before us? Or do we not believe in the words, encouraging words or compliments given by someone we care for or just really close to. Do we see the negatives and the positives we present as a person? If told these things do we notice them or try to acknowledge the good and bad things said?
We sometimes or most of the time we brush them off and say the things told to us are not true or stretched to the point of no return. Some one gives you a compliment about your dress or how you look today, some usually say " oh I just woke up and threw this on" or "girl I didn't even have on makeup." But they fail to just say thank you for the kudos on my dress or thank you for noticing my natural beauty, etc.. Things like these are things we may not see in ourselves but others have observed and want to let us know... even though we may be oblivious to it.
We see what is before us and may say we dont like it , may it be our body, home, financial status, health or looks, etc. the list can go on and on. We portray that in our everyday lives. It is reflected in our efforts, it comes off to someone else as being lazy, or unhappy. We need to learn how to really look at ourselves in the mirror, in a sense. Never compare with what Mr. and Mrs. Jones' have financially, physical looks or anything. What they have can never make you feel appreciated until you realize your self wealth.

Have a mind block now ... will continue later

Do you feel at peace with your decisions in life? Are there things that you would like to have changed in the past to make the present different? Will changing the past give you peace of mind now and for the future?
Have you ever wondered, " If only I could build a time machine, go back and change my past", I am sure everyone has had that thought cross there mind.The things we experinece are either from rushed decision making, spur of the moment actions, mistakes that cannot be re-done.
Although we ask to change our past we do not think of the changes that will affect our present. Take me for instance. If I wanted to go back and change something, it would be..... to not have married my ex-husband. I would not have gone through the emotional abuse, the infidelity, and the existance of my beautiful daughter. Of course it was an unloving marriage but what came from it I will never trade in my life.
Focusing on what we learned from those events in our life makes us the stronger, and cautious person now. If we do not we will still end up doing the wrong things because we never learned from our mistakes.
Again... you remember that you would not be the person you are today if you did that.
Now I know there are some out there that continually make those mistakes thinking they will learn one day.

Knowing what you know now that you did not know before should give you peace of mind. The peace of mind that you are a better person because of it and that you can even help someone else to become that better person also by what you have gone through and can help them avoid it. Experience is what we learn from our parents, grandparents, friends, etc. So if we have learned through our experience than we are like all the ones before us that are, in a way, passing down to us, to them, to others.... Peace of Mind.

Brownlove

How do we veiw authority figures? Do we give them praise for leading us into war? Are they better than we are as regualr people? Just because they have riches and fame, do they not bleed the same as we do? Do they not want for love and desire happiness as we do?

These questions come to mind when I think of the President, the actors/movie stars. Ones we at one point in our lives want to be like. We are and will always be like them. Only difference between us is the fame, popularity, riches, big houses, etc. But look at them. Do they really look happy? We all know that those things do not give you or make you feel complete. Yeah you may dream to become rich in order to do and get what you want in life but remember having fame and fortune does not make your problems go away. They become worse.

Think about it. For instance a young teenager about to turn 18yrs old and plays the lottery. She wins it and gets 100,000 dollars. What do you think will happen when she gets they money? Now this does depend on the up-bringing of this child. She may go on a shopping spree, buy a new car or a house. But do you think a 18 year old girl is even thinking of investing this money before it is gone or thinking about paying for college, books, tuition, etc. Something to better her life mentally, is not crossing her mind at all. She is thinking she is rich and she is going to show everyone she has money. Not thinking that the money is going to be taxed or that she will have to pay taxes on the money when tax time rolls around. She may say that her parents still have to pay for her college education because that is their duty. Bottom line... our thinking and judgement goes out the window when we come into money or fame. The word comes to mind is becoming "BIGHEADED."

Same goes with authority. Celebrities feel that they don't need to listen to any authority figure because of their status. Again they are regular citizens as everyone else is. Not paying their taxes..... consequence you go to jail. Have sex with under age kids..... you go to jail. Deal any drugs or have possession of drugs..... you go to jail or get fined.

Either way you look at it everyone is the same regardless if you have a high authority job, if you are a famous singer/movie star/actor or actress. Even if you well known for doing good in the community, if you are seen doing somethin wrong you are punished LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.

Next I will discuss the privacy you loose and the trust of friends and family that is tested when you reach the point of being filthy rich or famous. Keep in mind what the goal is for attaining this power and wealth.Keep it close in mind when you are tested with life's unexpected twist and turns.

Brownlove

I was sitting with a group of friends at lunch and they were bringing up the subject of married men going to lunch with a female, who is also married. One of the women said that the individual should not be doing that because it is wrong.

In what sense is going to lunch with someone of the opposite sex wrong even if they are married. They are only going to lunch to eat and converse. Maybe they both seek to talk to someone that will talk back to them/get involved in the conversation rather then just eating and nodding their heads.

When I do get a chance to get out and go to lunch with a friend of the opposit sex, I always notice the same thing. Individuals sitting their eating and not talking or laughing. They are there just looking at other people or looking around into space or something. Why can't you have lunch with someone who can appreciate your conversations or your laughter. You may not get that from your significant other, but it is not like they are not doing the same.

Ask yourself. "If I tell my spouse to not go to lunch with the opposite sex", do you think they will listen or do it behind your back? It is best to have a trusting relationship and know that your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend is going only to have a good lunch and converse with FRIENDS.

So I was not part of the conversation because I thought it was not necessary to comment when speaking to a person that has already made up their mind about someone. These women are saying this man wants to be a player, just because he is going out to lunch with a bunch of women. Or that this one particular woman is seeking something other than a friendship with this guy only because she is going to lunch with him and having him drive his car. They were also saying that this woman does not want to drive her car cause she is afraid her husband might see her. Maybe she just did not want to drive to waste her gas!

Older women, from experience, view things so different. As though they are stuck in the olden times or something.

I feel that there is nothing wrong with going to lunch with a friend of the opposite sex when you are married,/engagedor in a relationship. Although cut buddies tend to try to make you there property you stil should be able to go out to lucnh with friends if they are co-workers or not.

Well I have to get back to work. Catch ya another time.

I found that this is a good way to relax and be able to visit ones you know without physically being there with them. I have read several inserts in my friends journals, Miguel and Paul. Their journals are so contagious that you want to sit there and read every one of them but knowing it is impossible to do since they started their journal years ago.
It is something about putting words down on paper or in a journal that can not be said or heard by anyone. Just to be able to express yourself in different ways without seeing the physical affects it takes on you or the one you are speaking. Helps you cleanse yourself of negativities that are embedded in you from your daily trials.

Just to be able to put your thoughts on something and reflect back on how you felt that day and how you dealt with it and how you have changed; in order to deal with certain occurances in life.

You tend to grow from life and life's experiences.

About me:
I am a single mother of two beautiful children age 8 and 3. I have been down the road of somewhat blissful marriage then of course turmoil ending in pain, anger, and divorce. But as I mentioned earlier "you tend to grow from life and life's experiences." I love singing and sitting on my grandmother's porch watching the rain, listening to the sky give life to new things. When it rains I find myself just sitting there a reflecting back on the days when I was young dancing and playing in the rain in front of my grandmother's home. And you know what..... If I had a chance now I would do it again. Anyway back to the subject... I am 31 yrs young and getting younger.

Enough bout me.. I shall continue another day on another topic.